Love problems are rarely about luck. They are about patterns.
Whether you can't find the right person, you are stuck in painful cycles with the one you love, or you are trying to recover after it ended, the work starts in the same place: the subconscious patterns that shape how you love.
Private and direct. I usually reply the same day. Sessions in English, Spanish, or Portuguese · In person in South Florida or online.
When it comes to love, we are in one of four states
This is not the same as relationship status. It is your love state.
Bliss
If you are in joy and flow with love, enjoy it. You don’t need me.
If you are in any of the other three, I can help:
Single, looking, and ready
When you meet someone, it is never right, and love always seems just out of reach.
Find Your Person Program →02In relationship turmoil
You still love each other, but you keep going in circles: arguments, accusations, painful silence.
Awesome Couples Program →03In heartbreak
It ended, and part of you still hasn't recovered. Everyone says it will pass. It hasn't.
Awesome Again Program →All three programs follow the same three phases
Fast, focused hypnosis to calm the nervous system, ease the pain, and end the crisis. People don’t come to me unless something serious is going on, so first we stop the pain.
An intensive program to change a significant part of your life and resolve the problem in a way that lasts. We meet often and use hypnosis to reach results that matter to you.
A longer phase for those who want deep, lasting change. Lifelong patterns and problems that run in families need a longer and different process.
Everyone begins with Relief: an initial session plus a required follow-up 24 to 72 hours later (for couples, five sessions: one with the three of us and two with each partner). There is no obligation to continue after that.
Why I created these programs
I developed these programs out of necessity. After more than twenty years of helping people recover from devastating emotional events, I went through a profound personal breakdown myself.
Like many people, I sought help from highly respected professionals, locally and internationally. I met dedicated and caring people, but I found no clear, structured approach for the kind of emotional collapse I was living through. That surprised me. For years I had been helping clients through similar experiences, and I had assumed my approach was common. It wasn’t.
I began documenting the principles and techniques that had consistently helped my clients, and now me. Those notes became my book, Awesome Again. Over the past decade the work kept evolving through thousands of sessions. These programs are the result.
Every session is conducted personally by me, not delegated to an assistant or trainee. Most of the work happens in person at my South Florida offices in Doral and Plantation; we can also meet online.
Why talking alone may not be enough
I don’t just sit and listen to people’s problems. Each time we describe a problem, we strengthen the brain pathways connected to it (“neurons that fire together wire together”). That is why talking about the pain, again and again, can leave people feeling worse instead of better.
- Heartbreak hurts like physical painBrain scans showed that intense social rejection activates regions involved in physical pain, not only emotional ones.Kross, E., Berman, M. G., Mischel, W., Smith, E. E., & Wager, T. D. (2011). Social rejection shares somatosensory representations with physical pain. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, 108(15), 6270–6275.
- Going over it keeps it goingA major review showing that repetitive thinking about distress tends to deepen and prolong it, rather than resolve it.Nolen-Hoeksema, S., Wisco, B. E., & Lyubomirsky, S. (2008). Rethinking rumination. Perspectives on Psychological Science, 3(5), 400–424.
What I do is different
We work directly with the subconscious, where the patterns live, so the emotional charge of what happened can come down and new responses can take hold. Hypnosis is not a passive relaxation exercise here: it is the main tool of a structured process.
What is hypnosis, and why does it help with love and relationships?
Hypnosis is a state of calm and deep focus that gives you access to your subconscious mind, where lasting change happens. It is not sleep. It is that quiet, open, highly receptive state just before you drift off, without distractions and without resistance.
In that state, we can:
- Calm reactive and defensive thought patterns
- Break cycles of anxiety, disconnection, or conflict
- Retrain your mind and nervous system to allow closeness, trust, and real connection
This isn’t just mindset work. It changes how you feel… and how you relate.
- The evidence for hypnosisAn umbrella review of 49 meta-analyses (261 primary studies) over 20 years, concluding that hypnosis has real potential to improve mental and physical health.Rosendahl, J., Alldredge, C. T., & Haddenhorst, A. (2024). Meta-analytic evidence on the efficacy of hypnosis for mental and somatic health issues: a 20-year perspective. Frontiers in Psychology, 14, 1330238.
There is no diagnosis of any kind in these programs, and I do not prescribe or advise on medications.
In their own words
Initials only, for privacy. Individual experiences vary.
I am so happy that a dear friend recommended Dr. Flavio to me. My experience with him was one that I believe everyone should have. Dr. Flavio helped me uncover patterns and offered a new perspective that changed everything. I know that this shift is only the beginning of the life that I’ve always wanted to create for myself, and I owe a huge part of that to Dr. Flavio. If you are looking to become your highest self and are willing to put in the work, I highly recommend reaching out to Dr. Flavio to begin the journey. It is one of the best investments I have made for my personal growth.
Flavio truly listens and cares. Over time, I felt deeply supported and seen in a way I hadn’t experienced before. Our sessions helped me reflect, shift my perspective, and move forward with more clarity and confidence. I’m incredibly thankful for his generosity and for how much he gives of himself to the people he helps.
Dr. Flavio's sessions were incredibly helpful and supportive. I highly recommend him. He also speaks Portuguese and Spanish, which helped a friend of mine feel more comfortable.